The human brain is adapt at comparing things. Try your best to not assume that you will feel much differently because you are special or unique. Compare Products Based on Their Value 3. I think the consequences have a much bigger impact on our lives than even the book suggests. Why is that one can't imagine being hungry when one is full? T he Library of Congress has cataloged the Knopf edition as follows: Gilbert, Daniel Todd. But defining happiness can be difficult. For one thing, we change across time; the person you are when you are imagining what it would be like to have that fancy new car is not the person you will be when you actually have that fancy new car.
I found it interesting and engaging. Автор выбрал ярчайшие примеры, разыскал умнейших людей и самые органичные семьи, которые только мог найти, чтобы собрать лучший опыт, имеющийся на сегодняшний день, и создать своеобразное руководство для счастливых семей. It will change the way you think about thinking. They spend decades in pursuit of something that someone convinced them they should want, without realizing that it won't make them happy. Thus, they mis-predict their own emotional reactions to misfortunes of different sizes. I felt it could have been boiled down to about fifty pages without losing much.
While I don't agree with the comparison, I can understand that the genre bears certain similarities -- a nonfiction book with meandering tone, musing on a single topic -- but because this is primarily about psychology and the way we make decisions, I wouldn't really put these on the same shelf. But if our great big brains do not allow us to go surefootedly into our futures, they at least allow us to understand what makes us stumble. Very often, it's those details that ultimately make us happy. First and foremost, I thank the students and colleagues who did so much of the research described in these pages and let me share in the credit. Research shows that context, frequency, and recency are especially important in this regard. We toil and sweat to give them j ust what we think they will like, and they quit their jobs, grow their hair, move to or from San Francisco, and wonder how we could ever have been stupid enough to think they'd like that. گفته می شه که اتفاقات بدی که برامون رخ می ده اغلب منجر به رشد می شه.
If that seems like a no-brainer, then you won't find yourself greatly illuminated by this book. A few cool concepts stood out to me when reading Stumbling On Happiness: how we kind of suck at predicting our future emotions because our present state influences us so much, how certain societal ideas like needing money or wanting kinds propagate even if they do not make us happy, and how the brain constructs experiences based on biased memories as opposed to objective truths. Enacting control over your own life is a source of pleasure. I wrote much of this book while on sabbatical leaves that were subsidized by the President and Fellows of Harvard Col lege, the John Simon Guggenheim Memorial Foundation, the James McKeen Cattell Foundation, the American Philosophical Society, the National Institute of Mental Health, and the Univer sity of Chicago Graduate School of Business. Figure 22 adapted with permission from Guilford Publications, Inc.
You need to remember that your current emotions have a large impact on the image you create about the future. The advice Gilbert offers is to use other people's experiences to predict the future, instead of imagining it. وقتی گرسنه هستیم نمی تونیم تصور کنیم چه غذایی رو دوست داریم فردا نوش جان کنیم. Instead, this is a book that describes what science has to tell us about how and how well the human brain can imagine its own future, and about how and how well it can predict which of those futures it will most enjoy. But if our great big brains do not allow us to go surefootedly into our futures, they at least allow us to understand what makes us stumble. He seems to think that the more you repeat a thing that is self evident, the more interesting it becomes. Why do home sellers demand prices they wouldn't dream of paying if they were home buyers? بعد از خوندن این کتاب با ظرافت، دقت و آگاهی بیشتری می تونید به آیندتون نگاه کنید و مسیر رو انتخاب کنید This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers.
Chapter 3 p60-79 Gilbert basically motivates his assumption that people can and do accurately report how happy they feel in the present, and uses this as a basis for the rest of the book. Several colleagues read chapters, made suggestions, provided information or in some other way spared the wild geese a good chasing. And it was a very bored response. We can be wrong about our own experiences. When we imagine future feelings, we find it impossible to ignore what we are feeling now and impossible to recognize how we will think about the things that happen later. But wait, there is a solution to it.
Oh, and that is the other reason why I loved this book. Far from it, says New York University psychologist Gary Marcus. Note: does this explain something about why we love to believe myths or religious stories, often with very strong emotions? Considering our brains manipulate both our past and future to such an extent is mind-blowing. Most people don't know why they're doing what they're doing. How can I be happier? Anything You Want is a manifesto about living life, appreciating enough, and doing what matters. Gilbert takes a fascinating subject and manages to suck all the air out around it.
There is no simple formula for finding happiness. As we are about to learn, this fundamental inability to take the perspective of the person to whom the rest of our lives will happen is the most insidious problem a futurian can face. This line of research began with the question of how accurate are people at predicting how they will respond emotionally to a variety of experiences. The members of the Gilbert and Oli phant clans-Larry, Gloria, Sherry, Scott, Diana, Mister Mikey, Jo, D anny, Shona, Arlo, Amanda, Big Z, Sarah B. Accept that bad experiences are part of life, and take action. Stumbling on Happiness could have used a stronger thesis: it reads fine as a general list of cognitive fallacies we make, and it could have been even better with a dose of additional punch.
Just as imagination previews objects, so does it prefeel events. Reprinted b y permission o f Tribune Media Services. After establishing the subjectivity and difficulty in measuring happiness, Dr. When people are asked about generosity, they claim to perform a greater number of generous acts than others do; but when they are asked about selfishness, they claim to perform a greater number of selfish acts than others do. این یه کتاب عملی و راهنما برای خوشحال بودن نیست و بیشتر این موضوع رو بررسی می کنه که چرا چیزهایی که فکر می کنیم در آینده ما رو خوشحال می کنن وقتی بهشون می رسیم می بینیم نه، همچین خبری نیست انگار. Finding Facts: p180 After buying a Honda instead of a Toyota, you find yourself pouring over all the Honda ads which talk up Hondas, reinforcing your decision. You need that part of the brain for processing sound.